Growing up and achieving your goal in life is not as easy as one could imagine; the frustrations, disappointments, failures, envy, jealousy, financial constraints, betrayal, backbiting, etc. are some of the challenges that are likely to hit you on the way and cripple you down.
Few things have such a huge impact on happiness and the enjoyment, depth and plain fun of life as the friendships we have.
It could be the friendships with our partners, family members, co-workers and the people we have known for a few years now or since we were kids.
On the road to success, there are three key determinants: God, parents and friends. Friends play a major role in this journey of life. We are close to our parents at our infant stage where we don’t learn much since at that stage we cannot decipher what is good from what is bad.
Many seconds, minutes, hours, days, months and years are spent with our friends. If you are embarking on a journey, you pick the needed materials along with you, so are friends. On your way to success, you must pick friends along. The more circumspect you are in choosing your friends, the more likely you will achieve your objectives and reach your goal in life.
One thing we must keep in mind is that, if God wants to bless us, He uses people. At the same time, if the devil wants to destroy us, he uses people (those) around us.
This is why you must be careful in picking your friends. When you find yourself in a new environment, don’t just pick anyone as a friend even if he or she is the first person to approach you. When he/she buys you drink or food, don’t be convinced about his friendship. Remember that, we use food as bait to catch fish. Same way, you might be a victim of the situation.
When they begin to draw closer, ask yourself, why this sudden change? Some people become friends because it is convenient for them. When they don’t find that convenience, they will detach themselves from you. When they get their need of you, they will vamoose into thin air.
There are a lot of lessons we learned in schools. We had many friends, the ones who were in the same group and were free riders. They seemed to care, heaping praises on you after presentations and other things that benefited them.
After school, those people become ghost names in our minds. They won’t bother to call you and even if you call them, they won’t answer. Oftentimes, they pretend to be busy. When their need for you is over, they won’t bother to check on you.
I have learnt a lesson from one of Dr Paa Bobo’s song. Like the flamboyant tree, at its flowery stage, you will see many birds singing and dancing on and around it, but when the flowers are no more, those birds will never be found on that tree. That is how many people are, those you see as friends now. At your turbulence hour, they will vamoose into thin air.
The Bible was explicit in saying ” exchange greetings with many, but make friends with a few.
The fact that they eat with you and hobnob with you should not convince you to trust them as your friends. I know a man who was poisoned to death through drink by his friends. Remember, the insect that eats the vegetable leaves is always right behind the vegetable leaves. Many times in our lives, we are bitten many times by the insects in our clothes. Sometimes the people around you that smile with you are the same people that malign you at your back, passing caustic remarks and framing you up.
No matter our goal in life and how determined we are, it is the friends in our lives who will bring us to what we aim for.
They can make or mar our success.
Every day when you wake up, assess your friends to see if they have played a key role in your betterment and upliftment. If they haven’t, then it could be that the meaning of your life right now requires a change of friends to see a big change in the world.
There are some friends the moment you call to tell them of a problem you have, you have prevented them from answering your calls because they think you will ask for money. Others will make their problem look bigger than yours and when it happens that way, you just have to swallow yours. Sometimes you just need a change of friends to change your world. Some friends around us act like they are taking the bullet for us, but they are the same people behind the trigger.
One thing for sure, you can have your dream as big as the ocean, but dreams are like shadows and hope works on but it is the quality of your friends that will put you there. Friends are like a compass- a magnetic force to our success, pick them carefully.
Sometimes life can take a winding course to the extent that our motivational quotes will fail to motivate us; our ambition gets quenched by insidious fear and emotional fatigue- fear of nothing and fatigue from no work. When life bears its teeth to us in antagonism and bounds us in inescapable manacles, it is the love and affection from friends that make living worthwhile.
“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”
– Albert Schweitzer