Anyone can claim to be your friend, but some people are friends in name only. The grief caused when a close friendship turns sour is as bad as death. Some people will be your friend as long as things are going well, but they will turn against you when trouble comes.
A real friend will help you against your enemies and protect you in the fight. Never forget such a friend.
A true, hearty, faithful friend, loves in times of adversity as well as in times of prosperity: many are friends to persons, while they are in affluent circumstances; but when there is a change in their condition, and they are stripped of all riches and substance; their friends forsake them, and stand at a distance from them; as was the case of Job (Job 19:14). His friends deserted him at the time of distress.
A loyal friend loves at all times, prosperous and adverse.
To know whether you are with a true friend, ask yourself; Am I a better person for having known this person? Terminate friends that do not add meaning to your life, but rather subtract or hold you stagnant.
A true friend will accept, appreciate, acknowledge, assure, and sacrifice for you. By sacrifice, I mean despite fighting their problems and their limited ability, they will always try to put a smile on your face. And that is the cornerstone of any meaningful friendship.
Not everybody that you meet in life is a friend. Some people come into your life to detract and extract you, and to kill your ambitions and destroy your legacies.
Protect yourself against false friends. Friends can make or mar you. Remember, even the Lion, the king of the forest, protects himself against flies. People pretend well, beware.
Be very careful of who you share your problem with, remember that not every friend that smiles at you is your best friend (Kemmy Nola). There are some friends whom when you tell them your problem, they will use against you. And when they do something for you, it flows through the streets like a river.
A true friend will give you his full heart and attention, he will talk to you and listen to you also. He will look into your eyes and understand what you are going through.
When you make friends, don’t be too quick to trust them, make sure they have proved themselves after walking the extra mile. Some people will be your friends only when it is convenient for them, but they won’t stand by you in trouble. Such a person will always make his problem appear bigger than your own and look for excuses. Others will sit at your table as long as things are going well, they will stick to you like your shadow, but leave you in times of trouble. And if your situation takes a turn for the worse, they will turn against you, and you won’t be able to find them anywhere like the way Peter abandoned Jesus Christ.
But a loyal friend is like a safe shelter, find one, and you found treasure. Nothing else is as valuable as true friends. A loyal friend is like medicine that keeps you in good health. A loyal friend will treat you as he treats himself. He won’t malign you at your back and he will not envy you. A true friend will share the results of your victory.
Choose your friends wisely.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.